People were split after a mum admitted she didn’t use all the child support she received from her ex partner.
It is not easy to split with your partner, and it becomes more difficult when you become a parent.
After her divorce from her ex, a mum needed advice on how to navigate the tricky waters of child support.
Her ex-husband, who was born into a wealthy family, gives her a lot of support. “generous amount”Each month, they support their son.
However, the mother, who lives frugal, decides to save most of it in an effort to save for her child’s future and to teach him how budgeting works.
Take to Reddit, In the Am I The A****** forum, the woman asked for opinions on whether she was wrong for raising their four-year-old “cheaply.”
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She explained: “So, my ex gives me a generous amount of child support every month and I use about 20-30% of it maybe.
“I’m very good at budgeting since my mum raised me on her own and we always stuck to a strict budget.
“My ex grew up being overindulged and knowing he would never have to worry about money in his lifetime, so we have different ideas of what living cheaply looks like.”
After her ex found out that she was taking their four-year old to school each day, the topic of money came up.
After initially offering to buy her a car he demanded she take him to school in his taxi.
She stated: “Again, I told him no and he brought up all of the other ways he thought I was making our son ‘live cheaply’.”
“He said I didn’t buy him new football boots when he started getting into football (he is only 4), I buy him “cheap” clothes, I rarely take him to eat out and if we go to a toy shop, I only ever let him get one thing and it can’t be super expensive.”
The woman answered his question about where the money was coming from by telling him that she had either saved it or used it to buy new clothes. “a rainy day or for our son.”
“Now he’s angry at me for making our son “live cheaply” and essentially told me to stop saving and actually give our son the things he wants now because he had already made sure our son would be fine in the future,”She continued.
Splitting opinions were common. Many believed that the mother should save the money for her son and not for any other purpose.
One wrote: “All that money should be used to support your son not “put away for a rainy day” put any access money in a college fund or something for his future. This is not your money, it’s for your son.”
An additional: “Setting the money aside in case her son needs something in the future is smart. She’s not acquiring it for herself.
“Although the father is financially secure, there are always opportunities for change. Paying for an Uber home from school isn’t normal.
“Her son’s needs are being met and wanting to make sure that continues regardless of if her ex’s financial situation or willingness to pay changes is not acting in bad faith.”
“Home-cooked meals instead of eating out and only buying one toy at a time doesn’t sound like they are living in squalor,”I wrote a third.